Some Exclusions May Apply: Finding Friends as an Adult

Can we start off by admitting that finding friends at any age is rough?

I’d venture to say that finding friends as an adult is even harder than finding friends as a teenager.

Can we also agree that this is one of the funniest prom pictures out there? There are so many great things about this picture. Please say you’re laughing.


I was one of those kids lucky enough to find good friends young. I had many of the same friends throughout elementary, middle, and high school.

There’s something about being friends from the time you learn to tie your shoes until the time you leave for college that just makes life easier.

I knew there were mean kids out there, especially mean girls, but because we spent so much time in our insulated band friend bubble, the mean girls played a smaller role.

I mistakenly thought that mean girls were limited to middle and high school… you know what?

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Putting Down Roots

Texas-Oak-With-Bluebonnets-300x161I am one of the those people that likes to put down roots. I don’t like change and I don’t like surprises. I like to be prepared for the future.

We’ve been in Austin for 3.5 years, and I know that change is coming eventually.

When we left school in Utah, we agreed that we would follow Mr. Spreadsheet’s job wherever it took us. We knew that life would be an adventure!

But the uncertainty of not knowing where we will go next gets to me.  I want to know what comes next, I want to control the future. And I want to stay here.

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Hand Me Downs Are a MAJOR Disappointment!

Hand me downs are a MAJOR disappointment. Before you think I’m fancy, let me elaborate.

I grew up with hand me downs, some of my favorite clothes were handed down from friends and neighbors.

My favorite pair of shorts in middle school was bright yellow with citrus fruits (it was the late 90’s)… they were hand me downs.

I’m not against hand me downs, I love everything about the  hand me down concept.

I love saving money, skipping shopping, and reducing the amount of stuff brought into our already cluttered house.

But here’s the thing, hand me downs only sort of work in practice.

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Embracing the “Authentic” You


Lately I’ve been hearing the phrase “be authentic”.

My first reaction is to quote Princess Bride “You keep using that word, I do not think it means what you think it means”, but once I got passed that I started thinking.

I want people to have the impression that I have my life (mostly) together.

Actually, scratch that, I actually want to have my life together.

The reality is that we are taking things on an hourly basis.Read More »

Cleaning for Control

I’m a control freak. It’s ok, I’m old enough that I can admit it. I like to be in control, but I have three small children, so control isn’t something that I have a lot of.

I find myself looking for little things I can control, things like how clean the kitchen floor is.

I use these little things as a way to make up for the control I don’t have over other areas of my life… like how long it takes to leave the house.

Mr. Spreadsheets will tell you, that in addition to being a control freak, I’m also a clean freak.

I can’t sleep with dishes in the sink, I start cleaning the kitchen before everyone is finished with dinner, messes make me anxious… that’s why I avert my eyes when I walk upstairs in an effort to avoid seeing the playroom disaster.

I hate hate hate mess.

If you came to my house, you’d be shocked I feel this way.

Finding control in cleanliness isn’t a new thing for me. I’ve always looked to cleaning as a way to calm down and “fix” a frustrating situation.

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